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Fight the New Drug

Fight the New Drug

Who

We’re a group of passionate and innovative problem-solvers who want to make a difference in the world. Our mission is to raise awareness on the harmful effects of pornography through creative mediums.

Story

Pornography used to be a matter of personal opinion. Some people felt it was natural, normal, and even expected it to be consumed. Others felt it was “bad” or “wrong” due to their own religious beliefs or political views. However, few people, if any, seemed to have concrete evidence to support their points of view.

As young college students not too long ago, we came across the recent science of how porn affects the brain and we were shocked! After further study we began to find that porn not only had negative effects on the individual, but that pornography’s influence was causing huge problems in relationships, tearing apart families and that production of pornography was often inseparably connected to the world of sex trafficking and sexual exploitation. The research was clear that pornography has negative neurological effects, is damaging to relationships, and is impacting our society as a whole. Most of all, we couldn’t believe that all this was happening and nobody was talking about it! We quickly became passionate about educating the world (specifically teens) and raising awareness on the issue. In 2009, we officially became a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization and began this campaign.

We are the first generation in the history of the world to face the issue of pornography to this intensity and scale. We’re also the first generation with a scientific, fact-based understanding of the harm pornography can do. With that knowledge, we feel the responsibility to share with others that porn harms the brain, damages relationships, and affects society as a whole. Our movement uses nothing but science, research, and personal accounts to bring this issue out into the open and get people talking about something that has previously been considered taboo.

By choosing to Fight pornography, FTND followers can help shape their own lives for the better. By spreading this message to others however, they hold the power to shape history. From that simple idea, Fight the New Drug and the ‘Porn Kills Love’ movement was born.

WE ARE THE FIRST GENERATION IN THE HISTORY OF THE WORLD TO FACE THE ISSUE OF PORNOGRAPHY TO THIS INTENSITY AND SCALE. WE’RE ALSO THE FIRST GENERATION WITH A SCIENTIFIC, FACT-BASED UNDERSTANDING OF THE HARM PORNOGRAPHY CAN DO.

Mission

Fight the New Drug exists to provide individuals the opportunity to make an informed decision regarding pornography by raising awareness on its harmful effects using only science, facts, and personal accounts.

With an all-inclusive approach, we carry our anti-pornography message across borders of religious beliefs, political agenda, and social backgrounds by presenting it as a public health issue, rather than as a moral, political or religious argument.

As a nonprofit organization, we at Fight the New Drug give live presentations on the harmful effects of pornography in schools (public and private) and universities throughout North America. In just five years, we have toured the country and presented our message to over 300 schools reaching hundreds of thousands of teens. We are also delivering our message through social media and have gathered a massive following that has created a powerful social movement online. In addition to spreading awareness, we also assist young people who are already struggling with porn addiction through our unique online program: the Fortify Program. As we present our message, not only do we educate teens on the harmful effects of pornography to allow them to make an informed decision but we also give them a place to turn for help, as so many are silently struggling and are too ashamed or embarrassed to reach out for help.

 

Emotions are a Language – Ed Welch

Emotions are a Language

Ed Welch

Think of emotions as a language. They say something—something very important—and part of our job is to figure out what they are saying.

Sometimes the interpretation is easy. A friend says, “I feel so afraid.” She is saying that a threat looms to something that is important to her.

Got it. We hear her correctly. Now there is much we can do. We want to know more about the real or perceived threat, and we want to know how to bring God’s words to her heart. But the message is fairly clear.

Sometimes the meaning is harder to decipher. When my eight-month-old granddaughter cries, what is she trying to tell us? Since she does not have a large range of sounds, there could be a dozen different messages.

Leave me alone, I want Mom.

My leg is caught in the crib again.

I am hungry.

My brothers are trying to smother me with love.

I like hearing my noises.

Carrots are not among my favorite foods.

This is way too much stimulation for me.

My grandfather is the best.

And so on.

In a similar way, our emotional language is often not very precise. There are only eight or so families of emotions, and a lot gets packed into them. Sometimes we don’t even know what is going inside ourselves. The psalmist asks: “Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me?” (Psalm 42:5). If we don’t even know the emotional language of our own soul, how can we discern the intent of those around us? Is it shame that inhabits their fears? Is fear the core of their despondency? And though the meaning of their anger might seem obvious—“I AM NOT GETTING WHAT I WANT” (James 4:1-2)—anger can also be fear, self-protection, shame, despair, aloneness, and more. To complicate things a little more, a disrupted body and brain can send emotional signals that simply say, “I am sick.”

With all this in mind, here are a few clear guidelines.

  1. Scripture consistently identifies our emotions as matters of our hearts, which is another way of saying that they are important and we should pay attention to them. They usually reveal our true selves, and we hope to know each other in that deeper way.
  2. If someone close to us expresses strong emotions, we should do something. We might ignore the temper tantrum of a child, but if friends or spouses have shared that something is especially hard or good, we are moved by what they feel and want to know more. Otherwise, it might be the last time someone is willing to be open with you.
  3. Since emotions can be complex and give mixed messages, we hope to understand how and why someone feels as they do, in a way that they understand their own hearts a little better and feel known.

Figuring out the message in someone’s emotions may take time and commitment, but it is a great work of love and leads us in that process of knowing and being known, which is a key feature of the Kingdom of Heaven.

Related Article: How Pastors Counsel

7 Cups

7 Cups of Tea

7 cups“We all need emotional support from time to time. Our vision is that one day, every single person will have their own listener. With the help of technology, 7 Cups of Tea is bringing together caring people who want to help others with those who just need to talk to someone. Help us spread the word. Give peace of mind to people in need of a kind ear, heartfelt compassion and real understanding.”

Down with the Sickness

I called in sick the other day.  I’ve been feeling a bit under the weather for a few weeks now.  Initially, I thought it was the flu.  And as such took one day off work last week.  But for the rest of the week felt up to going, if not 100%.

Less than altogether better, I could have easily called off Friday nights engagement.  As it was, I cancelled my Saturday appointment and have contributed to the revenue of producers and sellers of cold and flu medication.

Following a weekend of singing, I went to work with sandpaper voice/throat.  After not sleeping well Monday night, I decided to take Tuesday off.

Therefore, while I capitalised upon the opportunity to get some more sleep and keep warm, social media distraction got the better of me.  And so, scrolling Facebook, I came upon a post from a friend who works in mental health.

Time Online

Admittedly, I spend a lot of time online.  This has been the case since I bought my first computer half a lifetime ago.  I have wondered, in light of my aspirations, whether there was a forum for really helping people online.  Sure, there has been generic and unintentional chat rooms and other social media platforms.  But before this week, I didn’t know there was a place intent on bringing people together.  In terms of my counselling training, we talk about seekers and helpers.

Introducing 7 Cups of Tea.

According to the ever trustworthy Wikipedia:

“7 Cups (formerly called 7 Cups of Tea) is a website (also an app) which provides free support to people experiencing emotional distress by connecting them with trained listeners.  The listener, trained in active listening, interacts with the person seeking help via anonymous and confidential chat.”

So I signed up, did some basic training, and effectively took my first caller.  It has been a  great opportunity for me to put into practice some of my training, while at the same time, providing some real, compassion driven help to those seeking it.

This service is pretty much free, confidential, and anonymous for those seeking emotional support.  Upon login, listeners are presented with a list of members wanting someone to talk to.  Both members and listeners are identified and protected by a screen name.  Sharing of personal identifiers is strongly discouraged.

A conversation looks much like the typical chat room.  The listener introduces themselves, and the function that 7 cups exists to serve. A listener’s role is self-explanatory: to listen to members sharing their struggles, whatever those struggles might be.

So far I have had a dozen or so conversations and am finding it both challenging and rewarding.