I am a parent. I love my boy. What he thinks and says and does is of unparalleled interest me. What is thought of him, said of him, and done to him interests me also. There are times when that interest ought to be converted into concern.
It is not unreasonable that I’m informed about these thoughts, words, and deeds. Often I am able to extrapolate that information from him directly, though being 4 years old, not everything that goes on in his word is communicated amidst our interaction.
Thankfully, Ashley picks up, in other conversations, things missing from father and son dialogue. Should even their conversation fail to pick up on that, especially when his world goes beyond the home, there are others who are more than willing to fill in gaps.
If he is at preschool and get’s hurt, Ashley (at the very least) is told. There is no need to keep anything a secret.
The prospect of some preschool children attending an off-site gymnastics program requires that parents not only know but give consent. His enrollment forms require us to grant permission for him to be given rudimentary medicines and basic first aid.
I understand the differences and the complexity. But many of New Zealand’s teenagers are being taken away from school for medical consultations without their parents even knowing.
What’s more, major surgical procedures are being carried out on many of these same New Zealand teenagers, all covered in the shroud of secrecy.
I’m talking about abortion. Under current New Zealand law, there is no provision that a pregnant teenager’s parents be even informed (we’re not talking about consent) that their daughters are going through crisis.
Recently, Hillary’s Law made it’s way into the media.
She discovered that her daughter was suicidal. But she didn’t know why. It wasn’t until well after the fact that she was told that her suicidal daughter had had an abortion. This teenager’s abortion procurement was something her school kept a secret from her parents.
On the back of that, Hillary knew she had to do something. A petition was presented to parliament, to be considered by a Select Committee.
Knowledge Leads to Violence
The Select Committee decided that they would take it no further. Instead, citing the possibility that some daughters would be met with fatal parental backlash, they decided it wasn’t in the best interests of kiwi teenagers facing crisis pregnancy that their parents at the very least, know what their daughter gets up to at school.
I know it’s not the same. I know it’s complicated. I know that there are nutty parents who would seek to do their daughters violence. But their daughters are subjected to an unimaginable violence when they are lead into the darkness of the abortion industry without even the ability to grope for mum or dad’s hand.
It’s a lot to process. I’m not suggesting my blogging is going to make much of a difference, or that my comparisons do any justice to the issue – but I hope that I can contribute to the discussion – as a parent who loves his boy in such a way that I am interested in what’s going on in his life.